Creating fulfilling relationships

Counseling Sessions

Counseling Sessions and Plant Medicine Sessions

I offer therapeutic counseling sessions by Skype or other video platforms. I also offer in-person therapeutic plant medicine sessions in Vancouver, BC, Canada, with fly-in options for clients who live elsewhere. I do not provide plant medicine.

For my Skype sessions, I used somatic-based processes to get to the route of the issues you need help with, see more below. For plant medicine sessions, I also use somatic-based processes, and I incorporate music – guitar, vocals, didgeridoo.

Contact me at eric@roadtocompassion.com if you have any questions or would like to set up a free 15-minute call.

My Approach to Counseling and Healing

In order to heal (integrate) our deeper wounds and lay down the pain we carry from the past, we need to get below the conscious mind. We can’t talk our way into healing our deeper wounds because the emotions and sensations and beliefs related to those wounds are not stored in the parts of the brain that do a conscious analysis of our past. By slowing down specific movements and impulses related to past wounds and mindfully feeling what arises while connecting to resources, we can access the implicit emotions, sensations and beliefs stuck in the unconscious mind, integrate them into our conscious minds, and stop reacting to the present based on the adaptations to the past. This is why I use somatic (body-based) processes for my work with clients. And, this is why I use plant medicine as well.

Brain research in which people are put into a brain imaging machine while on plant medicine or other psychedelics has shown that plant medicine quiets or limits the Default Mode Network (DMN) of the brain. One of the functions of the DMN seems to be keeping the gates closed on the unconscious mind. Therefore, as you might suspect, plant medicine and somatic processing work quite well together.  Meditation and mindfulness practices can also stop or “quiet” the DMN from functioning.

Clients who work with me have the option to work with or without plant medicine. I do not provide the plant medicine.

Working through difficult relationship dynamics often takes us to the edge of our capacity to feel. What I’ve found in helping people feel difficult things is that autonomy is crucial to the healing process. When someone is supported to be in full choice about what’s happening, they are more willing to explore their edges because they know they are in charge of their process. When I help clients through difficult issues, I don’t pressure them to do anything that doesn’t feel right for them. Instead, I offer possibilities and let my clients choose what feels right.

One of my main goals with my sessions is to help clients become more attuned to their bodies and stay present with their emotions, to feel their emotions without being overwhelmed by them. We simply cannot have successful relationships – relationships that deepen into greater intimacy and freedom – without improving our capacity to attune to our bodies and feel our emotions. I’m not referring only to emotions such as anger, grief, and fear; I’m also referring to emotions such as joy, excitement, and gratitude. We have a limit for feeling ‘positive’ emotions just like we do for ‘negative’ emotions (I use quotes because, if we are able to follow our emotions to our needs, they’re all helpful). The field of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) has shown us that our current capacity to feel any emotion is directly related to our primary caregivers’ ability to help us feel our emotions during childhood. IPNB also shows us that, with mindfulness, practice and support, we can improve our capacity to feel all our emotions.

I help clients explore their edges and improve their capacity to feel through different somatic-based inner processes. I help clients in several other ways as well: Improving Communication Skills; Learning Structures for Working Through Conflict; Understanding Relationship Challenges through the Lenses of Attachment Theory, IPNB, and Nonviolent Communication; Implementing Practices and Strategies for Improving Relationships, and more. However, the effectiveness of these services is generally limited by a client’s capacity to feel. These services make a difference without improving emotional capacity, but all of them are much more effective when underpinned by an increased capacity to feel and attune to the body.

If you have questions about my private sessions, I offer a complimentary 15-minute call. Email me at eric@roadtocompassion.com with questions and to set up a call.